Most of us would answer that question in some way
that has hopefully grown past the "I really love her, man" kind of
statement. Let's forgo the stupidity of the "I really can't keep my hands
off of her" answer and get on with why our Father in heaven has given us
permission to be married.
In a nutshell, God has had us men covenant with Him
to marry the one He has chosen for us, for His honor and for her best
interests. I know that kind of thought has rarely passed through our world-trained,
pea-brain ability to understand His ways about marriage, but it is,
nonetheless, true. We are to join together with one of His precious children
so that she has fertile soil to become all that she can be in Him. That honors
Him!
In Ephesians 5, we husbands are called to lay our
lives down for our wives in the way that Jesus laid His life down for the
church. He died so that we could live. That is how the Lord can use marriage as
an example of the relationship of Christ and His church.
When two people are joined together, they are given
the privilege of knowing the most intimate details of the other person. They
get to see whatever is undone in the other. Most of the time, especially after
many years together, those cute little habits or actions become a source of
irritation, sometimes even separation, instead of looking at them with Christ's
heart. Jesus would hold them before His Father so that we and our wives could
be healed. So should we.
God sees our job in marriage as laying down our
needs, our desires, and our comforts, and living for the best interests of our
wife and our children. The best interests of our circle of influence violate
every area of our fleshly comfort zone. It demands that we live in the
spiritual zone where Jesus lived for us. That is why He has given us someone to
go through our lives with. They are to be given an atmosphere to learn how to
love Him with all of their hearts. We are to provide that atmosphere by the
power of the Holy Spirit.
Author: Jim
and Merry Corbett
Photo credit: Metro