Lessons from Working with Young People
Over the past few years, working closely with young people has taught me some valuable lessons. It is exciting to note that every young person (teenagers and young adults, more importantly) does not just turn out bad; most of these people have underlying struggles they are dealing with.
First, young people are not as naughty as we often think.
They are simply driven by hormones in their excited state—hormones that sometimes lead to irrational behavior or bursts of exuberance. Understanding this has helped me approach them with more compassion than criticism.
I've learned that patience is key when dealing with youth. Instead of rushing to conclusions, we must be willing to uncover the "why" behind their actions. This is not always easy, but it's essential. Patience is a powerful tool for unraveling their struggles and fears.
Another truth is this: young people long for trust.
They want to open up—but they ask themselves:
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Can I trust this person with my secrets?
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Will they tell my parents?
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Will they laugh at me or judge me?
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Will they genuinely help me through this?
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Or will they take advantage of me?
These questions form the silent wall between many adults and the young people they care about. Earning their trust means showing consistent love, respect, and confidentiality.
What excites me the most is this: every positive effort you make in a young person’s life leaves a lasting mark.
Even the smallest act of kindness or understanding can shape their identity and journey forever.
So let’s:
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Create more time for our young people.
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Exercise more patience with them.
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Be a safe space, not a judgmental presence.
We truly can build a better world by helping them become better.
#Coaching #Youth and Teens Development #Parenting #Mentorship
@Ayodele Ogunleye